Keeping your cool through their storms

To say that children are forever changing would be an understatement. With each developmental stage, growth spurt and 'season' of life, we are put to the test, not only as parents but also as people.

Don't get me wrong, it's totally normal to not have it together 100% of the time - but how can we actively put things into perspective to understand that this moment is just a passing storm and not a permanent state of being?

Looking back on my own life, it's become obvious to me that everything comes and goes in waves, especially when I reflect on my childhood.

You’ll be forever chasing your tail if you've convinced yourself that your child 'is' this or 'doesn't do that'. Taking away labels from your Childs identity is the first step towards accepting each challenge they throw your way and allowing each storm to pass.

When we first left the hospital, I remember several health workers telling me that I needed to download an app that shows the leaps that children go through for the first 18 months of their lives. But no one prepared me for after that time.

The truth is, I don't really think we can track specifically when our child is going to go through another #leap or #change. When they are small they are soaking in so much new information at every second of the day, all in the meantime while their body is growing and #developing in more ways than we can imagine. So it's safe to say there are going to be meltdowns along the way.

One of the other important things to put into place are #boundaries. These could be mental or physical. It could be giving yourself a break every now and then to do something solely for you as a human and not a parent. So that you can come back #refreshed and with your cup full rather than trying to pull energy from an unreliable source of no #sleep/tired/angry parent.

Another thing to remember is to remind ourselves of everything our little ones are going through. It's easy to get caught up as a parent and want to control every detail, every #attitude that comes your way, but if you sit back and reflect - it will help you to calm your mind and parent from a loving and kinful place instead of a frustrated one.

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